Private dating intelligence

The friend who tells you the truth about your date.

Dating Counselor sits in your pocket and does what your kindest, sharpest friend would, cross-examines your match before and after every date, catches the patterns you keep repeating, and says the thing nobody else will. All of it stays on your phone. None of it ever leaves.

Download on the App Store 100% on-device · fully offline

Why it exists

You already know the feeling. This gives it words.

Somewhere between the butterflies and the group-chat screenshots, the truth gets lost. Dating Counselor asks the questions a friend, a parent, a detective, and a psychologist would, then holds your answers up against the goals and dealbreakers you set. It doesn't flatter you. It's on your side, which is a different thing entirely.


How it works

Three steps. One honest answer.

Step 1

Build your blueprint

A private profile of what you actually want, your goals, your attachment style, your absolute dealbreakers, and the traps you keep falling into.

Step 2

Audit your match

Answer built-in questions before the date and after it. The counselor listens like four people at once, the friend, the mother, the cop, the shrink.

Step 3

Read the verdict

A clear flag score, the green and red flags spelled out, and a deep read that connects this match to every pattern you've shown before.


A look inside

See it in action.

A match's red flag score and flag breakdown
Pre-date and after-date audit stages
The privacy pledge: no account, no cloud, no tracking

The four voices

Everyone who loves you, asking at once.

Each question is designed to surface something a single perspective would miss.

🥂The Friend
Be honest, did you actually have fun, or did you just enjoy having a date at all?

Strips away the excitement of the occasion to find the real spark.

💐The Mother
How did they treat the waiter, and could you be your messy, unfiltered self around them?

Character shows in how someone treats people they don't need to impress.

🕵️The Detective
Did their story check out, and did they ask a lot of pointed questions about where you live?

Catches inconsistencies, boundary-testing, and quiet safety red flags.

🧠The Psychologist
How did they handle a small 'no', and did you feel calm afterward, or anxious and confused?

Reads for control, love-bombing, and whether your nervous system felt safe.


What it catches

Sharper than a spreadsheet. Kinder than your ex.

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The Dossier (private CRM)

A little black book for each match: name, job, city, dietary quirks, key stories. Never mix two people up again.

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Pre-date & after-date audits

Vet them while you're still texting, then debrief once you've met. Two lenses on the same person.

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Dealbreaker hard-stops

The moment a match crosses a line you drew yourself, the counselor stops you cold, no rationalizing.

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Pattern reports

Across every match you audit, it spots the loops: the player magnet, the breadcrumb habit, the regret cycle.

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The accountability mirror

It grades you too. If you were the one on your phone all night, it says so. Honesty cuts both ways.

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Private by architecture

No account, no cloud, no analytics. The counselor runs entirely on your device, even in airplane mode.

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Safety first, always

If a date crosses into pressure or harm, the app drops the scoring and tells you plainly: get help.


The Dossier

Juggling three people? Stop mixing them up.

"Wait, is she the one who's vegetarian, or was that the guy from Hinge? Did I already ask him where he grew up?"

When you're actively dating more than one person, the details blur. You forget who works where, who has the dog, who you can't take for sushi, what you already told each other. One slip and a promising match feels like you weren't listening, because you weren't, you just couldn't remember.

Every match gets a private Dossier: their real name, job, city and neighbourhood, family, hobbies, dietary quirks, where things stand, key stories they told you, and topics to avoid. Add a photo so faces never blur. Open it before a date and walk in fully briefed, like the kind of person who remembers everything.

It's the quiet superpower of the exhausted dater. And because it holds this much personal detail about real people, it could only ever live in a private, on-device app, never a website, never a server.


No AI. On purpose.

You don't need a robot to tell you a hard truth.

Plenty of apps now throw AI at your love life to "spot red flags." We think that's two mistakes wearing one coat. First, feeding your most private messages and dates to someone else's model is a privacy nightmare. Second, an AI is a black box with its own biases, and it will happily flag them while letting you off the hook.

AI red-flag apps
  • ☁️Your chats and dates leave your phone to be analysed
  • 🎲A biased black box you can't see inside or question
  • 😇Points fingers outward, never holds you accountable
Dating Counselor
  • 🔒Nothing ever leaves your device. There's no server to send it to
  • 🧮Plain, transparent math, cross-referenced from your own answers
  • 🪞Turns the mirror on you too, when your patterns are the problem

Dating Counselor doesn't need AI to tell you the truth. Your patterns and a date's red flags can be cross-referenced and calculated straight from your answers. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that you keep chasing the same trap, or that "forgot my wallet" on date one is a bad sign.

Download it, try it, and see the difference for yourself.

Download on the App Store

The privacy pledge

Your love life is nobody's business but yours.

Dating apps monetize your loneliness. We refuse to. Everything you tell the counselor is stored only on your phone, protected by iOS encryption, we couldn't read it if a court asked us to.

No accountNothing to sign up for. No email, no password, no profile of you.
No cloudYour matches and answers never touch a server. There is no server.
No trackingZero analytics, zero third parties, zero ads. Ever.

If you're ever in danger, your safety comes before any score. If someone threatens you, gets violent, or pressures you into anything without your consent, that is abuse, never your fault, and not something to audit. Put distance between you, tell someone you trust, and contact your local emergency number or a domestic-abuse helpline.